Rejection sucks. It hurts. But you shouldn’t dwell upon the dissatisfaction of others. It’s something that you have to learn to accept and the best way to start, is by understanding the feeling of rejection. Let yourself feel the emotions, and focus on making that negative energy into a source of motivation. It’s hard to be positive when dealing with such a conflicting emotion. But don’t let it get to you. Here’s some advice:
Keep A Positive Mindset
If the job that you desired never gave you the call back, keep your head up. You might be thinking, “I must not be qualified enough.” That’s just bull. You are more than qualified. I firmly believe that if you want something bad enough, you can get it. Instead of thinking you aren’t qualified enough, shift that perspective to: “Maybe this wasn’t the right job for me, but there is one out there, and I will get it.” Just a simple change in your mindset will spark positive energy into your life. Everything you desire is out there, you just have to keep pushing and achieve it.
It Has Nothing To Do With You, And Everything To Do With Them
I know it may seem hard to believe when you’re being rejected, but it’s true. Just because they’ve got their opinions on what they want, doesn’t mean that there’s anything wrong with you. There’s over 7 billion people in this world, and you think that everyone’s going to think and feel the same way you do? Impossible. So don’t be so hard on yourself. There’s plenty of people, jobs, and opportunities that would KILL to have someone like you.
I remember in middle school I was EXTREMELY shy. People barely even knew who I was. I would act silly and crazy around my family and close friends, but it was like I was afraid of showing who I really was. I was afraid of rejection, and that kept me in my shell all of middle school. Entering a new high school with new faces gave me the opportunity to open up in ways I wish I had in middle school. To this day, I will always just laugh at myself for being so concerned about what other people thought of me. I have gained so much confidence since then because I had realized that no matter what, people won’t like me, and I’ve learned to accept that. Here’s a picture of me(left) in middle school. Cute right….
If you’re going through a breakup and you feel as if the whole world is crumbling down on you (I know how it feels), the most important thing you need to do is to keep reminding yourself that you ARE good enough. A lot of the times, we are heartbroken and hurt and we end up with the feeling of unworthiness. It’s difficult to believe otherwise, but trust me, believe it. Even if you gotta fake it till you make it. You are more than good enough. Maybe it wasn’t the right person, the right time, or the right place, but you’ll find your way to someone who makes you feel like home.
Surround Yourself With People You Love
There’s nothing better than being around love and affection when you’re feeling blue. Rejection often leaves us wanting to be isolated from everything and everyone. But the only thing you’re doing there is sulking in the pain and hurt. Even if you have to force yourself to spend time with your friends and family, just do it. It may feel like you’re only temporarily numbing the pain until it starts to hurt again, but you’re really stitching up the wounds that are just waiting to be healed. Have a spa night, drink some coffee, and detox with a Coffee scrub. (Trust me, you’ll thank me for this scrub). Keep yourself busy, and find things that make you feel happy.
With all of this being said, it doesn’t mean to completely push away the hurt and the pain. Sometimes it’s okay to let yourself feel the emotions of rejection. Let yourself soak it in, and make sure that when you do so, you learn to love yourself just a little bit more every time. Cry it out, but don’t forget to smile right after.
You Will End Up Exactly Where You Need To Be
Have faith that no matter how shitty someone made you feel for being you, or how catastrophic your day turned into, that somewhere down the line, you WILL end up in the right place, and time with the right people by your side. Practice self-love. Practice gratuity even when you feel like there’s nothing to be thankful for. Practice reflection. There are people who love you and there are people who are dying to meet someone as amazing as you. (You just haven’t met all of them yet.)
Ignite your spark,
Thanks for reading, xoxo.
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