Take a look at your life. All the little details, and all the people that go in and out of your life. Are you fully content with the people you are surrounded by? Are there people that you know who are interfering with your happiness? Ask yourself these things, because I’m almost certain that there’s at least one person in your life that has always been negative towards you, or has always rubbed you the wrong way. Someone who always wants to disagree with you, never encourages you, or someone you just don’t trust anymore, are examples of toxins that should be cleansed from your life. It’s quite easy for us to allow other people to take control of us. Letting go of toxic individuals isn’t as easy as it sounds, especially if this person is someone you love, or someone with importance to you. Ridding of the negative energy can be difficult, but it sure isn’t impossible.
There are people who can easily cut anyone out of their lives without guilt, and there are people who struggle to do so. I, for one, find it pretty hard to just cut people out. Maybe it’s because I never am willing to put myself in anyone’s bad side. At times, I would even make myself act like someone I’m not, just to fit in and feel comfortable around these people who, honestly, are people that I don’t even want to surround myself around. We often don’t even realize when we are letting other individuals control our lives, giving them the power to dictate our happiness. When it gets to that point, letting go is crucial.
Life is short. That ain’t anything new. Why keep people who serve you no purpose in your life? Hanging onto a deadbeat friendship or relationship just because you used to be super close with them is not a good enough reason. There are billions of people that you have yet to meet, stop holding on to people who are destroying your well-being, just because you’re comfortable, or you’re afraid of being alone.
When one person is putting more effort than the other, cut it. This goes for friendships and relationships. It’ll suck the life out of you. When they make it all about them and are only willing to work in their terms, then kiss them goodbye. If they continue to treat you as such even after you would confront them about it, then they aren’t worthy of a spot in your already crazy life. That negative energy is going to slowly destroy you and create you into their bitch. And I know you ain’t no bitch.
Find other things to do, and fill your life solely for people and things that make you the best version of yourself. You should surround yourself with friends and family who you can trust. You’ll never learn to blossom, if you’re allowing toxic people to block the sunshine.
I am extremely blessed to have found my forever friends. You’ll get to know the Fab Five more and more but if you need a good example of the kind of people you SHOULD be around, take a look at us. No matter what the circumstances, we have each other’s backs. I trust these girls with all of my heart and if I’m ever looking for comfort, I can always rely on them. We teach each other, and we learn from our mistakes together. We’ve developed a friendship that can never be unbroken. The kind of friendship that I am confident will follow me for the rest of my life.
You shouldn’t have to feel like you owe anyone anything. You aren’t obligated to meet anybody else’s needs except yours. If you have to put on a facade in order to “fit in” with other people’s expectations of you, then you aren’t letting yourself truly live your own life. Your goal is to be exactly who you are, regardless of who’s beside you. Sometime’s it’s better to say no to toxic people, and say yes yourself. Read my article on saying no, in order to say yes to yourself.
Remind yourself that you are worthy of being treated with love and respect, always. And if there are people who hinder your growth, then kick ’em to the curb. Believe in yourself enough to want whats best for you, and surround yourself with people who ultimately want to see you develop into the happiest little flower you can be. Once you reduce the negative tension in your life, watch as your mood shifts, and your well-being will flourish in ways you never thought it would before.
Ignite your spark,
Thanks for reading, xoxo.