Remember when you would hope to find someone who will come along and sweep you off of your feet? And maybe someone did step into your life and you thought they were “the one”, but ended up being just like the rest of them. If you’re going through a break up, or maybe you’re missing someone you shouldn’t be missing, then stay a while with me.
Think back to when you didn’t magnify your flaws because of someone else. Or when you were comfortable in your own independence. Who were you before they broke your heart?
For a little insight, here are a few people’s responses to this question:
“Carefree. I didn’t have to worry about anybody else but myself.”
“A fraction of who I am today.”
“A badass. Then I got hurt. But now I’ve bounced back.”
“Idk, but a part of me died after she left.”
“I was a happy fun guy, but you know, times heals your wounds and eventually ur gonna go back to the same old self.. literally just invest ur time in yourself, spoil yourself and love yourself and you’ll go back to your normal self. Sucks now but the pain will pass and I learned from it.”
“I’m better because of it. It helped shape who I am today.”
“She didn’t break my heart. I don’t have time for all that.”
“Prolly the same tbh. I don’t think I changed or act a different way.”
“I loved every single person I met, I never had a mean bone in my body.. I never questioned anyone’s words or promises. Now I don’t know who to trust or to be nice to without being broken again.”
“Open. I had a lot of trust in people.”
“A loving person.”
“I was a little freshman who knew nothing about anything. So when I got heartbroken, it kinda opened me up to the world.”
I have friends who have been through hell and back when it comes to relationships. Even the people with the kindest hearts and the ones capable of radiating the purest forms of love, are the ones treated like utter crap. Your standards stand low when all you’ve ever been given was the bare minimum. Someone holding the door for you, complimenting you, or showing you respect, isn’t something that should be praised, it should be expected. Love is more than just an “I love you”. Remember that.
People have the power to change you, if you let them. Either this person has changed you for the good, or for the bad. You’ll wind up getting the shitty end of the stick at one point in your life, but always remember the kind of person you were before you let rejection and heartbreak define you. I wrote this post for any of you going through a rough patch when it comes to love. You were fine at one point, and you’re going to be just as fine as the person you were before they broke your heart. Don’t blame yourself for somebody else’s inability to love you.
Don’t settle for comfortable. Don’t settle for less, just because that’s what was given to you. You’ll find yourself with the right person, at the right time and at the right place. You’re going to find something genuine. Something worth waiting for. Something permanent.
Ignite your spark.
Thanks for reading, xoxo.