Tan skin, pretty eyes, and that dazzling smile. Wow, I wanna be that girl.
I know we’ve all been there before. We idolize other girls on Instagram and Twitter, comparing ourselves and stalking them, hoping we’ll miraculously become them. Us girls seem to be a lot harder on ourselves than guys are.
We all have our little plant of insecurity and in each branch, we have something that we wish we could change about ourselves. It’s just how we roll.
But, it just so happens that when we do idolize these “perfect” girls, we end up comparing what we don’t have, to what they do have. Our exes move on to a new girl and then your mind plays like a broken record: “What does she have, that I don’t?”
It’s a deadly poison.
Comparing yourself to others is a deadly poison.
It challenges your thoughts of your own self worth and it steals your time and energy.
Your best friend gets all the boys, your crush likes other girls’ photos, that girl is thinner than you, that girl is better than you. Blah blah blah.
Comparison can go ON and ON, so why let it keep going? It serves you no purpose, and it certainly doesn’t feed your own happiness. Instead of stalking the girl your ex got with, or the girl that you wish you could be, learn to love yourself.
Get to know your wants and needs, and the ways to become the best YOU there can be. It’s not a game. The only game you’ll play when it comes to comparing yourself to other people, is the losing game. You aren’t in competition with anybody else but yourself.
Practice being grateful for the kinds of things that are within you and your own life.
Personally, I struggle with being too busy focusing on other people who are prettier, smarter, or more successful than myself, rather than counting my own blessings and seeing the beauty that I have as my own. It’s tough because you see it everywhere. All the expectations as to what type of body, hair, and personality someone should have. It takes a lot of practice to learn to look past these impossible expectations. In the long run, your goal is to be comfortable in the skin you’re in.
These people you put on a pedestal have their own insecurities and troubles to worry about. Wish them the best, and then turn the attention back to you.
You’ll never be fully satisfied trying to be someone else. It’s tiring, and you lose the spark that’s only within you. All the time and energy you spend basking in the qualities you wish you had, could be time and energy spent enhancing the qualities you already possess.
Societies standards are impossibly high, and you’re only killing yourself by trying to squeeze into this small box of “perfection”.
Be kind to yourself. Embrace your flaws and imperfections.
Beauty is diversity.
Ignite your spark.
Thanks for reading, xoxo.