Pausing Before Reacting-Impulse vs. Intuition

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I’ve recently stumbled upon the quote:

“By practicing self-awareness and pausing before reacting, we can help create a world with less pain and more love.” ~Lori Deschene

This quote really settled in with me and it had me thinking. We often find ourselves in stressful situations, reacting in ways we regret, or saying things we truly didn’t mean in the heat of the moment. It happens, and it’s something that I tend to struggle with. I can be quite impulsive, and at times, it is a weakness that I possess. And, I’m sure I’m not the only one.

When we feel threatened or confronted, it’s natural for us to want to fight back in order to make ourselves look better. Criticism can be tough. When somebody gives you negative feedback on a project you’ve put your heart and soul into, it can be devastating. We tend to back lash on anything that threatens our vulnerability. It’s like our own personal bubble, and when somebody tries to pop it, we do everything to stop them.

I know you all have that one person that you have to bite your tongue when you’re around them, because they simply take everything to heart, and snap at you if they think you’re threatening their ego. And I know you all know that one person that you can say anything to, and they wouldn’t even be phased. We’re all wired differently. Some of us handle things better than others.

Be intuitive, not impulsive.

“When you act on impulse, you’re reacting immediately and subconsciously to an external trigger. An emotion, a place, a person. You don’t pause, sit down and analyze, you just go for it. A shot in the dark.”

When we become aware of our emotions and thoughts before we react, it allows us to recollect, so that when we execute a response, it is a true reflection of how we feel. A lot of the time, we exaggerate stressful situations because we’re in the heat of the moment. The defensive parts of ourselves are heightened. Your emotions and your thoughts tend to disassociate from each other when we feel threatened, and we just let our emotions run wild and cloud our judgement.

Your intuition is your own personal compass. The difference between intuition and impulse, is that intuition is not influenced by an external trigger. Your intuition is powered by a clear and balanced mind and soul. If you tune into it, it really is something magical.

Stay connected with your mind and heart.

Be compassionate in everything you do. Be aware of how you are impacting yourself, and the people around you. We can create better versions of ourselves by being in tune with our own thoughts and feelings. The majority of kindness and compassion in this world starts within ourselves. So, if we all practice self-awareness, the world would be filled with something worth keeping: love.

 Life is going to throw you curveball after curveball. It’s up to you to decide how to swing.



Ignite your spark,

Thanks for reading, xoxo.


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It can be very hard to be intuitive. It’s something that I really want to work on. Thanks for this beautiful reminder!


I am trying to train myself to really contemplate on whatever has happened before I react or say anything. I sometimes get aggravated with my roommate, but I have learned to be patient with her and myself and to not get too aggravated over something so small.

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This is such a great post. My 10 year old really struggles with impulsiveness and we’ve done everything we can think of to help him. One thing I’ve found is helping him name his emotion before he acts on it. Just giving it a name helps deflate it just a bit. I really appreciate you sharing this! Thanks.


I am trying to be intentional about taking a few minutes, or when possible even a few hours to a day before responding to something that has upset me. The more I take time to think about what I will say or how I react, the less likely I am to upset the other person or hurt their feelings. Hopefully, making us both better people, in the end.